Are there things in your Life, that you just cannot forgive?
I have.
What are you experiencing when you want to forgive something or someone but just can’t?
Does the mere existence of something unforgivable in your life make you feel ashamed, like you are losing something, or sometimes like a failure whose life itself is not going well?
It’s an experience that makes your memory feel as heavy as lead, because instead of accepting and cleaning the memory that the Unihipili (subconscious) has shown you through the experience of unforgiveable, you are ashamed of it, resisting it, and putting a lid on it.
I have been practicing the Ho’oponopono for 25 years, and at this very moment, I am still feeling the frustration of not being able to forgive my teenage daughter for something she said to me this morning.
And a few times a month, I remember various events with my long-divorced ex-husband and have the experience of never being able to accept him as perfect, never being able to forgive him.
There is something to remember when you are having a really unpleasant experience of unforgiveness.
The person who cannot forgive something is not (equal to) you.
You are given the opportunity to clean through the experiences of not being able to forgive something, and it doesn’t mean that you are the one who cannot forgive something.
The door to freedom opens when we first know who we really are.
I understand that you cannot forgive, what you cannot forgive and that you are suffering from the experience of not being able to forgive.
But at that time, what we want to do is not to put a label on ourselves and say, “I can’t forgive this!” or “I won’t forgive this” and continue to suffer from the unforgivable experiences.
Nor is it about forcing yourself to say, “I must forgive!”.
The experience of “unforgiveness” is like your phone ringing, like Unihipili is calling you.
The sound of the phone is so intense that you may be tempted to hang up the phone in a panic, or to reply violently, “Wrong number!” and responding violently.
The best choice is to welcome the Unihipili by saying, “Thank you for calling me”.
Even that fear of what you might hear if you answer this call, that you might be made to feel uncomfortable, angry, sad, or unforgivably miserable, is a special call from your Unihipili.
Unihipili is showing us the experience of unforgiveness. So we want to answer that call by saying, “It’s unforgivable, right?”.
Then you will realize that all the suffering we believe comes from the experience of unforgiveness, comes from putting a lid on or pushing back and ignoring our own experience.
The cleaning process begins by saying, “I can’t forgive you, thank you for showing me” before you resist or try to forgive. Our work ends there. True forgiveness can only occur at the will of the Divinity, on its perfect and right timing.
Whatever the experience, when we show our willingness to accept and just clean, in that moment we are free of all feelings and problems.
In that choice to allow the experience of unforgiveness, we reclaim our “true self” and allow the perfect flow of Divine presence to emerge in our lives. This allows us to reunite with our trustworthy life and trustworthy self.
I am very much looking forward to sharing this time with all those who are suffering so much that they want to forgive but cannot, and who want to run away from such a self, and to be in touch with their wonderful selves with honesty.
Peace of I
Christine Leimakamae Chu
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