There are times when we struggle not because we cannot quit something, but because we cannot keep the commitments we make to ourselves.

“I’ll start writing in a journal every day from today.”
“I’ll go for a run.”
“I’ll use positive words.”
“I’ll wake up early in the morning.”
“I’ll do yoga.”

When we fail to keep these promises—big or small—we may blame ourselves, lose confidence, or constantly compare ourselves to others.

I used to be like that too.
I wanted to free myself from dependency, to build confidence by making plans, but in the end, I only trapped myself further in a cycle of self-reproach for not being able to stick to my commitments. Looking back, I see that this cycle itself was at the core of my dependency.

When you break a promise to yourself, instead of asking, “Why can’t I follow through?” or blaming yourself, the real issue is that you are not aware of your own voice telling you, “I don’t want to do this.”

When you make a small commitment to start something new and fail to continue, the question you should be asking is not,
“Why couldn’t I keep going?”
but rather,
“Why do I not want to continue?”

It’s not about why you couldn’t keep writing in your journal, but why you don’t want to write in the first place.

Accept what you didn’t do as something you simply didn’t want to do. Clean with it. Then, you will begin to hear the true voice of your subconscious.

Your Unihipili is always honest, constantly showing you what is happening within.
All you need to do is clean.

Over and over again, we have ignored the voice of Unihipili, interpreting everything through the lens of memory.
By letting go of this deeply ingrained habit, by freeing ourselves from these chains, we can reclaim our natural rhythm.

And when you are in your rhythm, effort and willpower are not something you must force—they flow as naturally as your breath.

Peace
Irene Schwonek