This is an interview article with Christine.
Christine’s responses are highlighted in Yellow.

As times have changed, more and more women have begun turning their awareness toward their own “value.”
At the same time, it’s also true that we can be easily influenced by the values defined by the outside world.

Many women may believe that what they want is family, a career, wealth, self-esteem, and respect.
But what Christine speaks about is that what women truly seek is “freedom”—the freedom to be released from memories.

<Cleaning the Situation You Are in Right Now>

── As a full-time homemaker, while taking care of children, how can one clean the situation in order to receive one’s career and abundance?

That’s a very good question.

KR often teaches us that when we want to resolve a problem through cleaning, the first step is to clean “the situation that is right in front of us right now.”

In the case of a full-time homemaker, it is about noticing, “Right now, I am taking care of my children while thinking about my own career and financial abundance,” and beginning to clean with that situation.

When we begin cleaning, we include in the process all the thoughts, desires, and anxieties that arise within this situation.

When we are caught up in a swirl of thoughts and desires, we lose the ability to clearly see the path that is truly being given to us.

This is not limited to full-time homemakers; it is the same for everyone. What is important is to sever the connection, through cleaning, between “ourselves,” “the thoughts that arise within us,” and “the memories behind those thoughts.”

By cutting the connection with those memories, we are finally able to step back and see the situation. Only then can we listen to our inner inspiration and observe what life is bringing to us in this very moment.

There are only two ways to live our lives.
One is to live with love.
The other is to live holding fear, anxiety, and guilt.

Ho’oponopono is a process that allows us to let go of memories of anxiety and choose to move forward with love.

<What You Should Always Do First Is Return to Yourself and Care for Yourself>

── For many women, it seems that behind the desire to earn money lies a wish to “prove their own value.”
What are your thoughts on women’s self-worth?
I once asked KR the same question, and at that time KR told me, “You don’t need to do anything. Your very existence is value.”
However, in this society, value is often judged by “results,” such as how much money one earns or what kind of career one builds. Only then are people seen as having value.
That is why I would like to ask for your perspective and guidance on how women can live from their inherent self-worth, rather than seeking recognition from the outside by doing something.

This is also a very meaningful question.

What we truly want is not money, not self-worth, and not respect.
What we truly want is “freedom.”

Freedom from what?
Freedom from what we want.
Freedom from what we think we should have.
Freedom from the thoughts, anxieties, and judgments that arise when someone says something to us.

Outer voices drain our energy.
Through cleaning, we can be released from the burdens that those thoughts place upon us.

As we loosen our grip on anxiety, judgment, and thinking through cleaning, there comes a moment when we can feel, “I am okay.”
There is nothing we need to do.
All we need to do is cut the connection between “ourselves” and “the memories behind those thoughts.”

We spend so much time worrying about what others think.
But what we must always do first is return to ourselves and care for ourselves.

Let’s say your partner tells you, “You have no value.” It sounds very painful, doesn’t it?
But in truth, those words are showing you where, within yourself, you need to work.

This may be difficult to understand.
But for us, it is an opportunity—an opportunity to release memories and cut the connections.

If there were no memories connected to that partner or to those words, you wouldn’t even hear them in the first place.
And even if you did hear them, your heart would not be shaken.

When we realize this, no matter what words we hear, and no matter how unreasonable our partner may seem, we understand that what we need to do is to cut the connection with the memories related to those words and free ourselves.

And in doing so, we are also able to free our children from those memories.

[What You Can Clean]
• Your personal information
• The situation you are in right now
• Outer voices and other people’s actions
• What you think you want
• Thoughts, judgments, emotions, and memories

[Two Ways to Do Cleaning]
• When you think about a situation, you may use any cleaning tool
• When you have time, write out the items above and clean them one by one. Also clean with any emotions that arise during the process. When you feel peace, end the process, tear up the paper, and throw it away.

<Try Saying These Words and Let Go of the Memories>

── After a partner says something hurtful, how can we begin to see that person with new eyes?
Even if we feel we have forgiven them at the time, the same thing may happen again. How can we trust again?

When we keep chewing on the same memory over and over, we sink deeper into it and cling to it more tightly.
As a result, both the mind and the body become exhausted.
These memories turn into heavy baggage resting on our shoulders.

At that point, we can remind ourselves by saying this:
“Whatever the memory is behind what I am experiencing when my husband speaks this way, I am sorry. Please forgive me.”

What is important is that we do not need to follow what the memory is saying, nor do we need to get caught up in it.
What is needed is to begin cleaning in that very moment.

“Thank you.”
“I’m sorry.”
“Please forgive me.”

By saying these words and beginning cleaning, the connection with the memory is cut more quickly, and the inner dialogue driven by the memory comes to a stop.

We are not ignoring the voice we hear inside ourselves.
We hear it, but we choose not to follow it.
We choose cleaning, and then we listen to the inspiration that comes afterward.

When we fall back into our usual reaction patterns or talk back, we are speaking not from love, but from memory.

What I love so much about Ho’oponopono is that we are not told to deny the reality happening right in front of us.
We are asked to see what we are experiencing just as it is.

We can speak to ourselves, to the Unihipili (the subconscious, the inner child), like this:
“I know you don’t like this situation. Is it okay if we let this go? This is not really the other person’s fault, nor is it mine. At that moment, both of us simply fell into the replay of memories. That’s enough now. Let’s let this memory go. Let’s cut the connection with it. Thank you. I love you.”

Caring for yourself is the highest priority.

If there is physical conflict, the first thing to do is protect yourself.
Leave the situation, go to a place where you feel safe, and take whatever action is necessary to keep yourself safe.

When we argue with a partner, what we should clean is “the argument itself.”
We do not truly understand what is happening behind the scenes.

And when making any decision, ask yourself:
“Is this coming from memory, or is it coming from inspiration?”
This is the true difference.

── Wonderful. Thank you so much.
Dr. Hew Len says that women are extremely important, and that women’s happiness affects the entire world.
I also feel that it is very important for women to learn Ho’oponopono.

Women are given many roles by society—mother, wife.
Some women are treated unfairly in the workplace.
Within the collective consciousness, women have long been asked to endure, sacrifice, and give of themselves.

For example, even in dual-income households, when a child is born, it is often the woman who makes the sacrifice.
The woman leaves her job and begins caring for the child at home.
From there, conflict arises between one’s social role and one’s sense of self.

How can women clean this “anxiety about roles,” reclaim their self-worth, and let go of the related memories?

The era of sacrifice is over!

We need to remember this:
When we were born into this life, we ourselves chose to live as women.

And because we were born as women, that choice also includes the purpose of cleaning “memories related to femininity.”
For example, collective memories such as “women come second” or “women are meant to wait for instructions.”

When we remember, “I chose this gender myself,” we become able to live a completely different expression of femininity.
Seeing our own strength.
Taking responsibility for our own power.
Living as ourselves with love.

We can also say this to ourselves:
“That’s enough. I choose to let go of these memories through cleaning. I choose freedom. I choose to live as my true self. I include my family in this cleaning, so that they too can return to freedom.”

This is something we can do.

If, in a certain moment, you feel like a “victim,” it is because at that moment you believed the memory of being a victim.

It is not truly your partner or society that is the cause.
You simply believed the thought, “I am a victim.”

So once again, remind yourself:
“Dear memory, I hear you. But I choose to let you go. Thank you. Thank you for giving me another opportunity to release you.”

── Thank you. This has been a truly profound conversation.
Up to this point, we have mainly asked about women’s self-worth.
So then, from the perspective of Ho’oponopono, what is “true self-worth”?

True self-worth is this.

Our essence is love itself.
We are whole.
We are created from Divine light.

That is who we truly are.
Nothing more, and nothing less.

When we allow ourselves to enter into love, we naturally enter into freedom.