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When we encounter difficulties with colleagues, students, teachers, neighbors, or family, and especially when it seems, from any angle, that the problem lies with the other person, reconciliation can be challenging. There may be times when others agree with your viewpoint, making you feel validated that it’s not just you. However, regardless of how many people share your opinion, or even if you gather evidence to justify your feelings, the irritation and anger you feel is yours and yours alone.

It is “you” who feels this way. The anger, the memories, they belong to “you.”

What you are experiencing as your reality is just a continuous observation of your original belongings, shifting focus from one object to another. Therefore, it’s profoundly wise to look inward, not outward. By recognizing and taking responsibility for the emotions you identify within yourself, you can adopt a stance of cleaning as a personal duty.

Ihaleakala Hew Len, Ph.D.
Ihaleakala Hew Len, Ph.D.heir to SITH Ho’oponopono and a leader in its spread throughout the world. He graduated from the University of Colorado in 1962, then the University of Utah, and received his doctorate from the University of Iowa in 1973, where he was Dean of Education and Director of Special Education. He later became President of the Medical College and Assistant Professor of Education, then Assistant Professor at the University of Hawaii in 1974, and Executive Director of the Hawaii Association for the Mentally Handicapped in 1976, where he worked on rehabilitation of offenders and support programs for the physically handicapped. He was a frequent speaker at the United Nations, UNESCO, and World Peace Conferences, etc. He passed away on January 15, 2022 at the age of 82. He published many books (click here for the list of publications).

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