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\u2500\u2500 As a full-time homemaker, while taking care of children, how can one clean the situation in order to receive one\u2019s career and abundance?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
That\u2019s a very good question.
KR often teaches us that when we want to resolve a problem through cleaning, the first step is to clean \u201cthe situation that is right in front of us right now.\u201d
In the case of a full-time homemaker, it is about noticing, \u201cRight now, I am taking care of my children while thinking about my own career and financial abundance,\u201d and beginning to clean with that situation.
When we begin cleaning, we include in the process all the thoughts, desires, and anxieties that arise within this situation.
When we are caught up in a swirl of thoughts and desires, we lose the ability to clearly see the path that is truly being given to us.
This is not limited to full-time homemakers; it is the same for everyone. What is important is to sever the connection, through cleaning, between \u201courselves,\u201d \u201cthe thoughts that arise within us,\u201d and \u201cthe memories behind those thoughts.\u201d
By cutting the connection with those memories, we are finally able to step back and see the situation. Only then can we listen to our inner inspiration and observe what life is bringing to us in this very moment.
There are only two ways to live our lives.
One is to live with love.
The other is to live holding fear, anxiety, and guilt.
Ho\u2019oponopono is a process that allows us to let go of memories of anxiety and choose to move forward with love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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<What You Should Always Do First Is Return to Yourself and Care for Yourself><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2500\u2500 For many women, it seems that behind the desire to earn money lies a wish to \u201cprove their own value.\u201d This is also a very meaningful question. [What You Can Clean] <Try Saying These Words and Let Go of the Memories><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n \u2500\u2500 After a partner says something hurtful, how can we begin to see that person with new eyes? When we keep chewing on the same memory over and over, we sink deeper into it and cling to it more tightly. \u2500\u2500 Wonderful. Thank you so much. The era of sacrifice is over! \u2500\u2500 Thank you. This has been a truly profound conversation. True self-worth is this. As times have changed, more and more women have begun turning their awareness toward their own \u201cvalue.\u201d<\/p>\n","protected":false},"featured_media":11505,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"template":"","format":"standard","teachername":[107],"genre":[106],"newspostcategories":[132],"class_list":{"0":"post-11503","1":"interview","2":"type-interview","3":"status-publish","4":"format-standard","5":"has-post-thumbnail","7":"teachername-christine-leimakamae-chu","8":"genre-selfcare","9":"newspostcategories-post-interview"},"acf":[],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t
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What are your thoughts on women\u2019s self-worth?
I once asked KR the same question, and at that time KR told me, \u201cYou don\u2019t need to do anything. Your very existence is value.\u201d
However, in this society, value is often judged by \u201cresults,\u201d such as how much money one earns or what kind of career one builds. Only then are people seen as having value.
That is why I would like to ask for your perspective and guidance on how women can live from their inherent self-worth, rather than seeking recognition from the outside by doing something.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
What we truly want is not money, not self-worth, and not respect.
What we truly want is \u201cfreedom.\u201d
Freedom from what?
Freedom from what we want.
Freedom from what we think we should have.
Freedom from the thoughts, anxieties, and judgments that arise when someone says something to us.
Outer voices drain our energy.
Through cleaning, we can be released from the burdens that those thoughts place upon us.
As we loosen our grip on anxiety, judgment, and thinking through cleaning, there comes a moment when we can feel, \u201cI am okay.\u201d
There is nothing we need to do.
All we need to do is cut the connection between \u201courselves\u201d and \u201cthe memories behind those thoughts.\u201d
We spend so much time worrying about what others think.
But what we must always do first is return to ourselves and care for ourselves.
Let\u2019s say your partner tells you, \u201cYou have no value.\u201d It sounds very painful, doesn\u2019t it?
But in truth, those words are showing you where, within yourself, you need to work.
This may be difficult to understand.
But for us, it is an opportunity\u2014an opportunity to release memories and cut the connections.
If there were no memories connected to that partner or to those words, you wouldn\u2019t even hear them in the first place.
And even if you did hear them, your heart would not be shaken.
When we realize this, no matter what words we hear, and no matter how unreasonable our partner may seem, we understand that what we need to do is to cut the connection with the memories related to those words and free ourselves.
And in doing so, we are also able to free our children from those memories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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\u2022 The situation you are in right now
\u2022 Outer voices and other people\u2019s actions
\u2022 What you think you want
\u2022 Thoughts, judgments, emotions, and memories
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Even if we feel we have forgiven them at the time, the same thing may happen again. How can we trust again?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
As a result, both the mind and the body become exhausted.
These memories turn into heavy baggage resting on our shoulders.
At that point, we can remind ourselves by saying this:
\u201cWhatever the memory is behind what I am experiencing when my husband speaks this way, I am sorry. Please forgive me.\u201d
What is important is that we do not need to follow what the memory is saying, nor do we need to get caught up in it.
What is needed is to begin cleaning in that very moment.
\u201cThank you.\u201d
\u201cI\u2019m sorry.\u201d
\u201cPlease forgive me.\u201d
By saying these words and beginning cleaning, the connection with the memory is cut more quickly, and the inner dialogue driven by the memory comes to a stop.
We are not ignoring the voice we hear inside ourselves.
We hear it, but we choose not to follow it.
We choose cleaning, and then we listen to the inspiration that comes afterward.
When we fall back into our usual reaction patterns or talk back, we are speaking not from love, but from memory.
What I love so much about Ho\u2019oponopono is that we are not told to deny the reality happening right in front of us.
We are asked to see what we are experiencing just as it is.
We can speak to ourselves, to the Unihipili (the subconscious, the inner child), like this:
\u201cI know you don\u2019t like this situation. Is it okay if we let this go? This is not really the other person\u2019s fault, nor is it mine. At that moment, both of us simply fell into the replay of memories. That\u2019s enough now. Let\u2019s let this memory go. Let\u2019s cut the connection with it. Thank you. I love you.\u201d
Caring for yourself is the highest priority.
If there is physical conflict, the first thing to do is protect yourself.
Leave the situation, go to a place where you feel safe, and take whatever action is necessary to keep yourself safe.
When we argue with a partner, what we should clean is \u201cthe argument itself.\u201d
We do not truly understand what is happening behind the scenes.
And when making any decision, ask yourself:
\u201cIs this coming from memory, or is it coming from inspiration?\u201d
This is the true difference.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Dr. Hew Len says that women are extremely important, and that women\u2019s happiness affects the entire world.
I also feel that it is very important for women to learn Ho\u2019oponopono.
Women are given many roles by society\u2014mother, wife.
Some women are treated unfairly in the workplace.
Within the collective consciousness, women have long been asked to endure, sacrifice, and give of themselves.
For example, even in dual-income households, when a child is born, it is often the woman who makes the sacrifice.
The woman leaves her job and begins caring for the child at home.
From there, conflict arises between one\u2019s social role and one\u2019s sense of self.
How can women clean this \u201canxiety about roles,\u201d reclaim their self-worth, and let go of the related memories?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
We need to remember this:
When we were born into this life, we ourselves chose to live as women.
And because we were born as women, that choice also includes the purpose of cleaning \u201cmemories related to femininity.\u201d
For example, collective memories such as \u201cwomen come second\u201d or \u201cwomen are meant to wait for instructions.\u201d
When we remember, \u201cI chose this gender myself,\u201d we become able to live a completely different expression of femininity.
Seeing our own strength.
Taking responsibility for our own power.
Living as ourselves with love.
We can also say this to ourselves:
\u201cThat\u2019s enough. I choose to let go of these memories through cleaning. I choose freedom. I choose to live as my true self. I include my family in this cleaning, so that they too can return to freedom.\u201d
This is something we can do.
If, in a certain moment, you feel like a \u201cvictim,\u201d it is because at that moment you believed the memory of being a victim.
It is not truly your partner or society that is the cause.
You simply believed the thought, \u201cI am a victim.\u201d
So once again, remind yourself:
\u201cDear memory, I hear you. But I choose to let you go. Thank you. Thank you for giving me another opportunity to release you.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Up to this point, we have mainly asked about women\u2019s self-worth.
So then, from the perspective of Ho\u2019oponopono, what is \u201ctrue self-worth\u201d?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Our essence is love itself.
We are whole.
We are created from Divine light.
That is who we truly are.
Nothing more, and nothing less.
When we allow ourselves to enter into love, we naturally enter into freedom.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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