{"id":11399,"date":"2026-01-28T11:18:24","date_gmt":"2026-01-28T02:18:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hooponopono-asia.org\/en\/?post_type=interview&p=11399"},"modified":"2026-01-28T18:46:50","modified_gmt":"2026-01-28T09:46:50","slug":"its-time-to-stop-treating-yourself-as-small","status":"publish","type":"interview","link":"https:\/\/hooponopono-asia.org\/en\/interview\/waialea-craven-x\/its-time-to-stop-treating-yourself-as-small\/","title":{"rendered":"It\u2019s Time to Stop Treating Yourself as Small"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

(Continued from Vol.1)<\/a><\/strong> Have you ever compared yourself to others and felt discouraged, or found yourself thinking, \u201cI\u2019m not enough\u201d?
In Vol.2, together with Wai\u2019ale\u2019a, we go deeper into how to let go of the habit of putting yourself down, and how to cultivate trust in Divinity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\uff1cWe Will No Longer Go Along with the Bullshit of \u201cTreating Yourself as Small\u201d\uff1e<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Irene:
Actually, yesterday I met someone and talked with them, and I felt really miserable about myself. The other person didn\u2019t do anything at all, yet I somehow made myself feel small on my own\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wai\u2019ale\u2019a:
A long time ago, there was someone who said to me, \u201cI\u2019m the queen bee, and you\u2019re just a worker bee\u201d (laughs).<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Irene:
What?! That\u2019s such a harsh thing to say.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wai\u2019ale\u2019a:
In moments like that, when someone says something that hurts us, we instantly judge them as an enemy, someone who is harming us. Then we either blame them or go into defense mode, putting all kinds of strategies between ourselves and the other person.
But there is only one thing we need to do at that moment. First, say to yourself, the one who had the experience, \u201cThank you. I love you.\u201d
And then say, \u201cThat hurt, didn\u2019t it? But it\u2019s okay. I\u2019m glad, because this is another opportunity to do cleaning.\u201d
We turn our awareness inward and begin cleaning.
Because that shock and that pain were memories that already existed within us. Those un-erased memories appeared through a person or a situation, giving us another chance to do cleaning.

Irene, you must not hand your power over to the other person. When someone\u2019s attitude makes you feel small, that is exactly the moment to entrust everything to Divinity.
If someone hurts you and you respond by blaming them or trying to change them, you are handing over the steering wheel of your journey to the other person\u2014or more accurately, to the memory.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Irene:
I end up soaking in that uncomfortable feeling. I keep listening to the voice that says, \u201cI\u2019m no good.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wai\u2019ale\u2019a:
Making yourself feel \u201cnot enough,\u201d and then punishing or denying yourself even more for feeling hurt\u2014that is what becomes the cause of disease.
The Unihipili feels unloved and shrinks.
At times like that, you firmly hold the Unihipili\u2019s hand and say this:

\u201cI\u2019m sorry. We\u2019ve been carrying this memory for such a long time. I understand your pain. But I\u2019m not going to go along with this bullshit anymore. We\u2019re done treating ourselves as small. I\u2019m going to gather all of this information and take it to Divinity! We are going to receive the answer!\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

Irene:
\u201cWe\u2019re done!\u201d\u2026 That\u2019s incredibly powerful. It feels like waking up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wai\u2019ale\u2019a:
Yes. Both the Unihipili and I are honestly fed up already (laughs). We refuse to keep treating ourselves as powerless.
We ask the Unihipili to gather all the information and deliver it, together with the Aumakua (Father), to Divinity.
And then we allow the errors to be corrected.
That is Ho\u2019oponopono.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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\uff1cTrust \u201cInspiration,\u201d Not \u201cDrama\u201d\uff1e<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Irene:
I\u2019m not very good at driving and it scares me, but yesterday I gathered my courage and drove to my grandmother\u2019s house. I was doing cleaning the whole time, and suddenly I felt inspired to stop by a donut shop. As I drove toward a donut shop near my grandmother\u2019s house, a perfect parking space opened up\u2014almost as if it had been prepared for me\u2014one that even someone with my level of driving skill could easily park in.
It might sound like a small thing, but for me it was a moment when I truly felt \u201cconnected.\u201d
At the same time, there\u2019s a part of me that often struggles to trust the results of Ho\u2019oponopono.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wai\u2019ale\u2019a:
We tend to trust past \u201ctrauma\u201d and \u201cdrama\u201d more easily than inspiration from Divinity.
Let me tell you a story about my car, Angelica. This week, she wasn\u2019t in great condition and stopped twice. But both times, she somehow managed to carry me all the way to my street, and the moment we arrived, she stopped completely\u2014almost as if she were saying, \u201cI made it home.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Irene:
Wow, you\u2019re really being protected.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wai\u2019ale\u2019a:
Yes. That\u2019s why I know Ho\u2019oponopono is working.
Every time I start to doubt and think, \u201cMaybe I should stop,\u201d something like this happens\u2014a little miracle\u2014and I\u2019m drawn back again (laughs).
Irene, instead of listening to drama, let\u2019s trust more deeply that Divinity is protecting us.
Whether you find the perfect parking space or not, there is always a reason.
It may be that the inconvenient place was actually perfect as \u201cthe place that needed cleaning.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Irene:
I see. So it\u2019s not about whether the result is good or bad, but about \u201cjust doing cleaning\u201d no matter what happens.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wai\u2019ale\u2019a:
Exactly. Whatever memories come up, you continue cleaning, peeling away the layers.
\u201cThank you. I love you.\u201d That\u2019s all.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Irene:
Thank you so much for today. The memories of treating myself as small feel healed, and I feel as refreshed as if I\u2019ve taken a cleansing shower.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Wai\u2019ale\u2019a:
Thank you as well. Thanks to you, I was able to do the cleaning I needed too. I love you.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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WAI\u2019ALE\u2019A CRAVEN X resides in Hawaii. She first learned SITH Ho’oponopono directly from Morrnah in Pennsylvania 37 years ago and has since participated as a staff member in Hawaii, Germany, the United Kingdom, and the Netherlands. She has primarily practiced Ho’oponopono in her support work with individuals with disabilities. As a single mother, she raised three sons and now continues to practice Ho’oponopono in her relationships with her grandchildren. Click here<\/a> to read a related interview with WAI\u2019ALE\u2019A CRAVEN X. For more information and to register for private sessions, please click here<\/a>.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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