{"id":11067,"date":"2025-09-24T10:19:00","date_gmt":"2025-09-24T01:19:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hooponopono-asia.org\/en\/?post_type=interview&p=11067"},"modified":"2026-05-15T19:17:09","modified_gmt":"2026-05-15T10:17:09","slug":"what-we-can-do-to-allow-others-to-be-their-true-selves","status":"publish","type":"interview","link":"https:\/\/hooponopono-asia.org\/en\/interview\/caroline-kawaianuenue-sayres\/what-we-can-do-to-allow-others-to-be-their-true-selves\/","title":{"rendered":"What We Can Do to Allow Others to Be Their True Selves"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Many people seek a perfect partner, a flawless marriage or relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

At the same time, we often hear concerns like, \u201cEven though I\u2019m cleaning, I still haven\u2019t met the right person,\u201d or \u201cI don\u2019t know if he\u2019s the one.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Let me share with you about my own marriage with the husband I was with for many years.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I, too, was one of those people\u2014cleaning many issues while constantly questioning, \u201cIs marrying him the right decision?\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Every time that question arose, I cleaned. I also cleaned with the anxiety of not knowing the answer clearly.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

On the day of our wedding, when we exchanged vows, I found myself in tears. I didn\u2019t fully understand why I was crying, but I explained to those around me, half-jokingly, \u201cMaybe my Unihipili (subconscious) already knew what was coming.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Back then, I truly believed, \u201cNow I\u2019ll be happy,\u201d \u201cEverything will go well.\u201d
But in reality, marriage brought up many opportunities for old memories to surface.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

There were peaceful moments and turbulent ones. We shared many seasons together.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My husband had heart issues, and for about 10 years\u2014especially in the final 2 years\u2014his condition progressed significantly.
During that time, I cleaned deeply: my role, my fears, my feelings of guilt\u2026<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Even after he passed, I continued to clean our relationship through my own experience.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Some things I\u2019ve been able to release. Others, I still carry.
But what I experienced through cleaning with him has been truly precious.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

One of the gifts that came through this process was the realization: \u201cMost of the time I spent with him, I was seeing him through memory.\u201d
In other words, I had rarely seen who he really was.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

I clearly understood\u2014we see others through memory.
99% is memory replay.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That\u2019s why, even now, I continue to clean with his presence.
My cleaning around our marriage is still ongoing.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

With every cleaning, our relationship transforms in that very moment.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And I now realize\u2014
Even if I think I \u201cknow\u201d someone or \u201cunderstand\u201d them, that may only be a projection of my own memories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That might sound disheartening when it comes to relationships, but SITH Ho\u2019oponopono gives us options.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

It offers the choice to ask Divinity to erase memory so that we can see the other through the eyes of Love.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

By cleaning with my judgments of the person I think I \u201cknow,\u201d I release those memories from my path.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

And when that happens\u2014
By stepping aside, I allow him the space to be himself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Marriage, whatever it may look like to your intellect, is one of the greatest gifts you can give yourself.
To me, it is a gift from Divinity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I clean through the relationship, freeing myself from memory, the other person is also allowed to return to their true self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

But this doesn\u2019t come from my own judgments about who I think they are\u2014it only comes through whether or not I choose to clean.
That is the sacred path revealed.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Peace,
Caroline Kawaianuenue Sayres<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Continue your cleaning journey<\/p>