{"id":10487,"date":"2025-02-12T19:14:50","date_gmt":"2025-02-12T10:14:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/hooponopono-asia.org\/en\/?post_type=interview&p=10487"},"modified":"2025-03-04T19:06:48","modified_gmt":"2025-03-04T10:06:48","slug":"fear-of-losing-love","status":"publish","type":"interview","link":"https:\/\/hooponopono-asia.org\/en\/interview\/irene-schwonek\/fear-of-losing-love\/","title":{"rendered":"Fear of Losing Love"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

Conflicts and misunderstandings in relationships often stem from what I perceive as a \u201cfear of losing love.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My daughter has been married for seven years, and two years ago, she had a child.
As she transitioned from being my daughter to becoming someone\u2019s spouse and a mother, I experienced not only the beauty of her journey but also friction and challenges of equal intensity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Each time, I chose to clean, and as a result, I am deeply grateful for where we are today. One profound realization emerged during this process: every relationship has its own identity.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In the relationship between my daughter and me, I\u2019ve realized that if I continue to expect her to remain the \u201cdaughter who is my daughter,\u201d I will miss out on experiencing true love.
If I return to my true self\u2014what we call Zero\u2014at any given moment,
then my daughter and I can engage not through expectations, but from Zero.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

In every relationship, we are presented with opportunities to clean the memories that play out as expectations. It\u2019s as if we meet these people so that we can free ourselves from those very expectations.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The greatest gift we can offer in any relationship is to clean away the expectations tied to its identity, allowing freedom to emerge.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

You don\u2019t have to force yourself to forget the problems you see in someone or the pain they may have caused you. Nor do you need to think positively. Simply clean the facts as they are in the moment, and you will begin to reconnect with your true self.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Me and my daughter.
Me and my daughter\u2019s husband.
Me and my former husband.
Me and my 13-year-old beloved dog.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

When I clean and free myself from the assumption that \u201cI am a mother,\u201d and then speak to my daughter,
I can engage with her not through memories but through my true self, through love\u2014through inspiration.<\/p>\n\n\n

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My daughter often says to me:
\u201cWhen I\u2019m really struggling, I don\u2019t want to talk to my friends. They all say the same things.
But you always say something completely unexpected, and it helps me so much.\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n

I believe her words come from the fact that I clean my expectations and assumptions as much as possible before talking to her. And in doing so, I not only help her but also make things easier for myself.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The pain inflicted by others is, in fact, a memory that already exists within you.
This pain doesn\u2019t come from outside\u2014it has always been there. To truly heal this pain, we must work with our subconscious mind. Trying to change the other person or their way of thinking won\u2019t remove the true source of pain, because the pain resides in your Unihipili.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you\u2019re experiencing pain right now,
use whatever tool feels right to clean it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then, notice how you feel.
Does your body feel lighter or calmer, even slightly? If so, direct your attention there.
From that place, new experiences will arise, and you can clean again.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Through this process, you\u2019ll free yourself from memories.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Peace
Irene Schwonek<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Irene Schwonek attended the Self I-Dentity Through Ho\u2019oponopono SITH\u00ae class in 2009. Irene has raised two children and is also a master LomiLomi practitioner, author, and a TV-producer for a children\u2019s channel in Munich. Click here<\/a> to read an interview with Irene Schwonek<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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